Sherlock feels sentiment is destructive. It ruins one’s ability to think, and he can’t bear to get attached to people because it hurts too much to lose them. He also hates how people manipulate one another’s emotions; it disgusts him. He can’t even begin to contemplate sex and relationships.
He gets lonely, though, so he wants someone around — but no one can ever stand Sherlock. If they like him it’s usually hero worship and they always have expectations of him, or want things from him, and he’s never been able to be a normal person. People get disappointed and leave.
Until John. Sherlock gets attached to John and doesn’t like how it compromises his ability to think. He is constantly obsessing over John leaving or dying. But he can’t function without him when he tries to push him away, and making John feel bad makes Sherlock feel bad.
Here is the thread of Sherlock’s feelings for John, episode by episode, below the cut:
A lot of people have been getting irritated that John calls Sherlock a sociopath when he clearly isn’t, and that Sherlock refers to himself as a sociopath when he clearly isn’t. But the reason “sociopath” gets repeated over and over is because it’s a BIG part of the misunderstanding that is currently keeping them from having a relationship. It doesn’t matter that it’s not true, it matters that Sherlock says it.
Sherlock tells people he’s a sociopath to manage their expectations of him.
John tells himself Sherlock is a sociopath when he needs a reminder that Sherlock is never going to return his feelings. (i.e. if John calls Sherlock a sociopath, that means he wants him badly at that moment. Reread the blog with that in mind.)
A thread for John’s feelings, episode by episode across the series, below the cut.
You guys. Uh, yeah. This is true.
For reference, here’s Anteros, the Greek god of requited love… the wiki picture is this exact statue. That’s REQUITED love. REQUITED. Anteros is specifically the avenger of unrequited love.
SINCE THE PILOT. WHAT HAVE I BEEN SAYING? WHAT HAVE I BEEN SAYING?
Bless you, anon. Bless you.
I didn’t say I didn’t like S3. It’s just that I’m wary of it, of diving into it and getting caught up in the plot of it. The things I adore most about the show have been established by director Paul McGuigan frankly. I’m not sure I have the energy to enter so deeply into three different director’s visions. Because I see these new episodes not as Sherlock but as the spins three different directors put on what are now iconic characters. Each director was given free reign (which works on Doctor Who and NOT AT ALL with Sherlock) to show off their ideas of these characters and I think this was a huge mistake on Hartswood FIlm’s part.
There’s little continuity in the way the episodes are acted. That said, I think Martin absolutely thrived under Colm McCarthy with his best overall physical performance in the series as drunk!John. Benedict, on the other hand, kind of came untethered without his pal McGuigan steering the ship. I think it shows just how susceptible he is as an actor to direction.
I have nothing against the existence of Mary Morstan— she is canon after all— but I think tptb made mistakes in how they handled her. For example it was a colossal misstep not to tell Amanda what Mary’s story arc was (even if it was obvious once “liar” went all over the screen.) She would have played Mary so differently had she known and imo she’d have done a better job as an actor with that information. Why didn’t they tell her? Did Moffat really not know in advance? Was his script that late in coming out? Did they not trust Amanda personally? (She has a dramatic twitter presence after all. ) Or were they afraid the crew would leak it as they feared with the resolution to the fall. There’s a lack of trust there that’s a production problem. It’s the makers that give continuity to the show, certainly not the scripts and without all the necessary plot information they don’t know which way the wind blows and cannot do their best work if they don’t know what actual story they’re telling.
So my main wish for the end of S3 and S4 is that tptb consciously strive for consistency. If they can’t lure McGuigan back after his Frankenstein premieres (with so many of the Sherlock cast and crew working on it!) then I hope they convince Nick Hurran to return for at least 2/3 of the blocks/episodes. He was trying to return, it seems, to more of what made Sherlock great— the world that McGuigan established.
Babble babble babble
Churchill: “You’re not a dangerous man, are you?”
Burgess: “Still got both bollocks, if that’s what you mean!”
Quick Sherlock study
- nothing to add, this day needs to finish, bye -
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